Lessons From a Mentor

Dr. Edwin Louis Cole was one of the most influential men in my life. He welcomed me into his home, his life, his ministry and thanks to his beautiful Grand-Daughter Lindsay who I married, his family. I can honestly say that it is a rare day that something he said or taught doesn’t come across my mind or […]

Dr. Edwin Louis Cole was one of the most influential men in my life. He welcomed me into his home, his life, his ministry and thanks to his beautiful Grand-Daughter Lindsay who I married, his family.

I can honestly say that it is a rare day that something he said or taught doesn’t come across my mind or slips from of my mouth. (most of the time without realizing it.)

I thought I might share a few of the truths (in no particular order) that seem to be the most frequent. (with a few thoughts of my own that go along with some of them.)

Here they are…

Peace is the umpire for knowing the will of God for your life.
This is become a foundational truth for our family. I can’t tell you how many times my wife or I have made a decision based on nothing more than the fact we didn’t have peace. This truth will turn most “hard” decisions into easy ones.

An ounce of obedience is worth more than a ton of prayer.

Character is more important than talent.
This was a hard lesson for me to learn. We live in a world where talent is worshiped and character doesn’t matter. Unfortunately this is often true in the church as well. We are the first impression many people will have of Jesus, and sadly, many people have chosen not to trust Him because they can’t trust us.

The characteristics of the kingdom emanate from the character of the King.
Same with business. Same with church. Same with Family. I may not be a king, but I am a father. My kids may not inherit the few talents I have, but they will pick up my character. When I see something in them I don’t like, I have to make sure I have dealt with it in myself first.

The man without an organized system of thought will always be at the mercy of the man who has one.

Don’t let someone create your world for you, when they do, they will always make it to small.

Change is not change until it’s change.

Don’t pray for opportunities. Pray you’ll be ready when opportunities come.
A constant prayer I used to pray was “God, bring me opportunities to preach… open doors for me”. I remember one day driving in my car praying this prayer and I heard a clear response from the Lord, “I’ll bring you opportunities to preach, when you have something worth saying.” That was a hard lesson, but one that I’ll never forget.

You are only qualified to lead to the degree you are willing to serve.

When the charm wears off, there’s nothing but character left.

We tend to judge others by there actions but ourselves by our intentions.

Personal philosophy determines public performance.

The man who knows how will always have a job. The man who knows why will always be his boss.

Leaders determine to influence. Followers only happen to influence.

Worry is a substitute for prayer.
“Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done.Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.” Phil. 4:6-7 (NLT)